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Last update 1/19/97
Not all Chathouse rooms have an FAQ, only rooms that are unique in nature usually have a FAQ. The purpose of a FAQ is to inform chatters that are new to a certain room that there are things that they should know about the room before becoming involved in that room. Some rooms have specific content that some members of The Chathouse may find offensive or not to their tastes. Also this room may have specific unofficial guidelines regarding conduct in this room that do not apply to other rooms in the Chathouse. The Chathouse does not enforce these guidelines, nor are these unofficial guidelines set by The Chathouse. These unofficial guidelines are set by the regular users of this room. Using these guidelines will help you meet others in this room and help you understand the operation of this room. Ignoring the guidelines could and will, most likely, cause stress between you and the regulars in this room.
The CHAMBER FAQ.
The CHAMBER in the Chathouse is a room which contains discussions on BDSM. (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism and D/s (Dominance/submission). Entrance into this room is based upon the stipulation that you would like to learn or are currently involved in this style of thought and believe that everything that goes on in this room is to be SAFE, SANE and CONSENSUAL. The members of this room are not interested in passing judgement on society and wish for society not to pass judgement upon them. They would prefer to converse with open-minded individuals and to avoid being gawked at by the uninformed or the intolerant. Imagine this room as a private club, we have a bar (no bartender) and drinks are on the house, a fireplace, a handful of tables, and LOTS of comfortable chairs. Attached to this room are private chambers and in these private chambers are any type of equipment you can imagine (more on this later). The key to smooth operation in this room is respect. In this room sending a private message to another user without first asking permission is a sure way to get flamed. Public conversation is encouraged, if you wish to speak in private to someone, ask that person in public if you may PM them, allow a few moments for a reply, if you get no answer ask nicely a second time. In general the best way to conduct yourself in the CHAMBER is to treat everyone with the greatest amount of respect, we are all very friendly in the CHAMBER, stick to the basic guidelines and you will be welcomed with open arms.
1. I'm new to this room and don't want to offend anyone, what should I do ?
A brief introduction , announcing that you are *new* to THE CHAMBER would be appreciated. Things in THE CHAMBER are quite differnet from other rooms of the Chathouse, Please don't jump in and start sending private messages as soon as you arrive. Take a while to get to know everyone, we are fun group of people. Please invest the time to read this FAQ fully, it will make things much easier for you to "fit in ".
2. I'm a new DOM, how do I meet a new sub ?
The answers to questions 2 and 3 are almost the same. Sit back, listen, observe, ask questions and get to *know* the people in The Chamber. Check out the links to other web pages at the end of this FAQ. How would you behave in public when first meeting someone? Would you be rude and obnoxious? If the answer is *yes*, then be prepared to be FLAMED by the entire Chamber. Keep in mind that a sub that is committed to a Dom/me is considered property of that Dom/me. Entering into private conversation PMing) or giving orders to that sub without permission of the Dom/me is the highest form of disrespect to another Dom/me. If in doubt, ask before assuming anything.
3. I'm a new sub here, how do I meet a DOM ?
See #2. If you wish to contact a Dom/me, get to know them in public chat first, then ask in public if you may enter private chat (PM). While some Dom/me's will jump into hot chat right away, most would like to get to know you first. For a successful relationship to work both parties should know a little about each others likes and dislikes.
4. What's with those private chambers.
When two or people are in a private chamber, they are really in private chat. It's a nice way of saying we would rather not be disturbed at this time. Think of them as *personal dungeons*, with all the workings of a Real Time (R/T) dungeon of the Dom/me tastes that owns it contained inside this *private* area. Again, be respectful of these areas. If you see something you'd like to borrow *ask* first. If someone else allows you to use their private chamber, clean up and leave a note of thanks when you are through. Common courtesy does not go out the window, simply because we are in cyberspace.
5. Why do I have to get permission just to talk to someone ?
Due to the sensitive nature of The Chamber, everyone (Female as well as Male) is encouraged to ask permission before initiating private conversation. Every private club has their own code of honor and this is one of ours. If you cannot accept that, then you are being disrespectful to the person you are talking to and may be publicly reprimanded. Public conversation is encouraged, but private chatting (PM's) is a different story. Sending an unsolicited private message to a Dom/me is considered, by some, to be disrespectful or an invasion of privacy. Most submissives have committed themselves to a Dom/me, and sending an unsolicited private message is againest the rules set up by most Dom/mes. If a submissive has informed you that they are committed to a Dom/me, then asking any personal questions is also considered disrespectful without approval of their Dom/me.
6. I've sent 3 requests for PM and haven't gotten an answer, what should I do ?
First of all, give the person time in which to answer your question. Don't bombard them with three requests in a row, they'll think you're an idiot or harassing them! See if they are talking with anyone else publicly in the room. If they aren't, assume they are in PM's (Private Messages) with someone else and back off. If they are talking with others, explain that you would not like to be a pest, but are unsure if they are ignoring your request or just didn't see it and a simple "yes" or "no" answer from them in public would suffice.
7. How does someone become a Dom/me or a submissive ?
This is a tough question. Being a Dom/me or a submissive is a lifestyle, so asking how to become a Dom/me or a sub is like asking how to change your lifestyle. For most, it starts out as an interest, that you explore with someone whom He/She has a caring relationship. Most Dom/me's or subs start off by exploring printed information on the subject. At the end of the FAQ you will find many links that can help you explore this lifestyle. There is no "one" way to come to these conclusions...it is the person's life experiences that lead him/her there. Feel free to ask anyone in the room, some will share their experiences, some may not, do not be offended if someone considers this a private matter.
8. What is a Switch?
In the vanilla world the classifications are straight, gay and bi-sexual
(with bi-sexual meaning that they like both men and women).
In The Chamber the classifications are Dominant, submissive and Switch (with
switch meaning that the person can be a Dom/ms or a sub).
9. What do the terms *vanilla* and *wannabe* mean?
Vanilla: someone who is not interested in BDSM or D/s and enters
The Chamber for the sole purpose of disrupting the environment
Wannabe: someone who enters The Chamber and can talk the talk but
has no concept of what The Chamber entails. Their play borders on the absurd
because they do not understand what they are doing. They *want to be* something
but haven't taken the time to *learn* what it means to *be* that persona.
10. What does C/T and R/T mean ?
These terms describe your relationship.
R/T means Real Time (a real world
relationship)
C/T means Cyber/Time (a computer
relationship).
11. What's a collar for ?
Some of the submissives choose to be committed to one Dom/me. Many Dom/mes choose to put a collar on their submissive/s, which signifies their status, and tells others how they should approach them. If a submissive is collared, they usually will not initiate any chat, except casual public conversation, and they will not accept Private Messages without permission from their Master/Mistress. It is also considered discourteous to ask personal questions of a collared submissive. Uncollared submissives may feel the same level of commitment as a collared sub, but it is their personal choice on how to handle the situation.
12. Posting Pictures
While some chatters like to look at pictures, posting of pictures is strongly discouraged. If you have pictures that you want to share, post a link. Posting pictures slows down everyones screen refresh, and could get you flamed, or ignored.
The Following is a story which helps people who are interested in BDSM and D/s to better understand this type of relationship.
The three legs of the stool are caring, respect, and discipline.
Caring: for yourself and your submissive. To cherish your submissive- treating them as the true gemstone that they are. To honor them above others, as they belong to you, alone. Knowing that when they are nurtured, they will shine beyond your wildest imagination. When you have accomplished all this, you will find that they for you just as much and will hold you above all others.
Respect: For yourself and your submissive. Always showing them the proper courtesy due them whether publicly or privately. Acknowledging they have made the ultimate sacrifice by giving themselves fully and completely to you and never misusing or abusing the trust they have placed in you. Opening your heart to them, so you may receive theirs in return. Rewarding them for their efforts, even when they have done nothing extraordinary. Knowing that when you have completed this, they will always respect you, for you have earned that right. Knowing that they would never intentionally embarrass you, publicly or privately, that they would rather die before committing such an infraction.
Discipline: To be firm, yet gentle- keeping an even keel. To make their new tasks an adventure and not a punishment. To know when they are ready to *push* forward and when they need a little extra encouragement. Taking them by the hand and reviewing their older lessons, when they are not ready (or able) to move to the next level of learning. Never scold for being unable to fulfill your latest request. It makes them feel like failures, or worse, might push them into learning something they are not yet ready to know. Rejoicing in the new experiences you’ve shared, the unbelievable joy they bring to you (with each level of learning ) and how brilliantly they are beginning to shine.
The seat is built with trust. Trust in your Master and yourself to be the best that you can be. The three legs of the stool will Tip, if all three legs are not distributed evenly. When one of the legs is missing, the stool will be rendered useless.
Links that you may find interesting:
This FAQ is currently maintained by:
Master of Pain & Pleasure & tazgirl (keeper's of the list)
MISTRESS CYD's Domain (contributor)
T3 & MJ3 (contributors)
Littlehart (contributor)
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